respect: lost and found
Monday, May 29, 2006 (11:03 PM)
i was about to go to bed, in fact i was already lying on my bed (not telling lies on my bed) preparing myself for work the next day but, i just can't wait to do this.
i just came back from a talk with some friends and this talk made me learn a lot. cliche but true. i have a newfound respect for insurance agents. i didn't think being insurance agents is anything but a last resort for people who can't stand office environment. not anymore. the art of convincing is no easy task but then again, it's not that difficult. all you have to do is to learn the art. i have even more respect for my friend whom at this point in time is inconvenient for me to name.
i don't know much about dale carnegie's "how to win friends and influence people" but i have a new perspective in success books. learning to be more tolerant. learning that blowing up is not the way to solve things. learning that sometimes it is necessary to take a step back. learning many other things. above all, learning to "be" inferior and learning that the biggest loser answers all questions.
sounds illogical? yet true.
body languages play important part in daily life. we all know that. we all seem to know that somewhere in the back of our head. sometimes we know how to do certain things but we just can't pinpoint it or express it in words. when someone says it out explicitly, it is when we start to use it more often and notice that it is not really all arbitrary common sense.
it's the same when dealing with autistic children or even normal children. i've learnt this through media though, that when you approach a child, autistic or not, if you lower yourself to his height or at least close to his height and talk to him, he will feel more comfortable with you and less intimidated. but if you stand near to him looking down, he will feel overpowered and inferior.
to end this, mum has a great analogy to tell.
getting to your goal is like climbing the stairs to the roof top. you have to take it one step at a time. even if you want to go faster, the most you can take is 4 steps at a time and having to pull yourself up with every big step. it's not possible to climb one flight in every stride. but if you and i have a race and you take 4 steps at a time while i take 1, by the time you reach the 5th floor, you would've been very tired while i still have the energy to go on because i have been conserving my energy from the start to prepare for the long journey ahead.